My first blog shared a small part of my life, focusing on strength, determination, and encouragement. Growing up, my life did not unfold the way I expected. From birth, I faced struggles, and no one knew what my future would look like. School was especially difficult. I often felt I was not smart enough or as beautiful as my light-skinned family members, and being teased by my siblings deepened those feelings. In high school and college, I turned to sports and discovered my s

Before I was old enough to speak for myself, someone had already placed a limitation on my life. I entered this world two months early, weighing only three pounds and seven ounces. I was so tiny that my grandfather said he could fit me inside a dresser drawer. My fragile little body reminded my family of a wet bird, so they gave me the nickname “Bird.” It was a loving nickname, but it also reflected just how vulnerable I was. My twin sister and I were born into a single-paren

Dating in my 40s has been an experience—to say the least. I've met men online, reconnected with people from my past, given second chances that probably didn't deserve first chances, ignored red flags I definitely saw, and had moments where I had to ask myself, “Girl…what are you doing?” But through all of it, I've learned a lot about dating, relationships, and most importantly, myself. Online dating has taught me that you can't always believe what someone says they're looking